For some reason in our society we have gotten away from encouraging others. We judge others and sometimes are harsh to them without even realizing it.
I was listening to a podcast yesterday where she was talking about how people in your life should challenge you on decisions and try to make sure you are making the best decisions possible. While I do believe you need people in your life to tell it like it is sometimes, I do believe we need encouragement more.
It took awhile for me to pursue my dreams and leave my steady career that I had grown accustomed to. I had people in my life supporting me and telling me to chase those dreams, and it still took me awhile to start on that journey. I wonder what would have happened if I didn’t have anyone in my life who encouraged me to be the person I dreamed of being. Instead it could have been easier for them to tell me that I wouldn’t make it, and I needed to stay with a steady job that I knew was the safe option.
It was definitely the option that was guaranteed to work since I was already in that position and creating a good life from that job. Most people would have been happy in the career path that I went into, but there was something missing in it for me. I just kept feeling like there was something else out there for me.
If I wouldn’t have had my support group in place when I got started on my journey of being an entrepreneur, I probably wouldn’t be in the place I am today. I definitely did not pick the easy choice, but I picked the choice that makes me feel like I am doing what I was designed to do. I still feel frustrated, beaten down, and even like I am failing sometimes. The difference now is that I keep doing it because I love doing what I do. The positives outweigh the negatives, and I love being able to create the life I have always wanted.
For you it might be something different that you need encouragement on, but every one of us needs it in some way! Do you remember the last time you encouraged someone? Do you remember the last time someone encouraged you? If you don’t have anyone in your life that you feel encourages you to be the person you want to be then find some people that do! Join communities of people that will be that support system for you. Your local church, meetup.com, and joining a local gym could all provide opportunities to meet these people. There are probably some great people who you work with that would be great friends if you just opened yourself up!
People want to be around people that inspire them and believe in them! We need to start being positive towards those people in our lives that mean the most to us. If you can’t remember the last time you encouraged a friend or family member, I challenge you to pick up the phone and either call or text some sort of encouragement to someone who you know needs it.
The other day I had a friend who felt bad about her success so far in life and was trying to justify why they were building a home with so much space. I looked at her and said, “You have worked hard to get where you are in life today. You don’t have to justify it to me!”
She had other family members around her that weren’t as happy for her and were jealous. Instead of encouraging her and genuinely being happy for her, they were criticizing her need for space in the home, and making rude comments under their breath. This is no way to treat people, and it has got to stop!
I am not perfect in encouraging others, but I am trying everyday to be better.
God has given us all a purpose and a plan in our life. Everyone’s life looks different, but who are we to judge what someone else’s life should look like? I don’t think if we see someone we love go down a bad path that we shouldn’t speak up and say something, but if we do and the behavior still does not change, then all we can do at that point is pray and encourage them. People will respond better to love than someone trying to change them.
We are going to start a FREE private encouragement group on Facebook if you truly need some encouragement, but don’t get it from others in your life. We all need it so we want to be able to provide that for you:) Email us at firstname.lastname@example.org or message us on our Facebook page to sign up!
Life is hard, but together we can do more:)